Living Authentically — living from the core of who you are for lasting satisfaction

Input Invited

by Evan on 2018/07/02

This post is me thinking out loud. Any and all comments, thoughts and contributions are welcome.

Introductory Explanations (Feel Free to Skip)

Those who know me, know that I think the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is great – for giving an overall sense of the person (not therapy). I also think it is incomplete: it characterises perception (finding out what is going on) and judgement (deciding what to do), but not action (the actual doing).
You would think that with the West’s bias to action that there would be lots of systems for characterising how people act. I haven’t found many. If you know of any please let me know in the comments.
I’m wanting to characterise the how of our doing: not it’s source or what it is attempting to achieve. I’m wanting to characterise the acting.

What I Want to Do

I’m wanting a simple split in the way we act. The one I’m think about is something like routine or habitual vs deliberate and chosen.

I think these cover all of our acting. I think they are identifiably different experiences.

There are a couple of things I’m unsure about:

One is if this is a classification of our experience of what we do, or a classification of action.
Another is if people have a preference for one way of acting over another in normal life.

Input Invited

Do you know of any systems for classifying how people do what they do (in normal living)?

When you think of people you know do you think they have particular ways of doing? If so could you say what they are?

Do you feel that you act in the same way in a variety of situations? Could you give a name to this way?

Do you have a way that you think about how people do what they do? Would you like to share it with me?

Any and all input, just put it in the comments box at the bottom of this post, very gratefully recieved.

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Exporting Responsibility, Perhaps

by Evan on 2018/06/17

in Relationships

Responsibility

Responsibility is one of the important values in self development. It means that we often have more choice than we realise. I think this is important. It can be liberating to realise, “Oh, I can do that”, or, “You mean I don’t have to do that?”

It is important to distinguish responsibility from blame. One of the common ways of doing this is to say that responsibility means response-ability. I entirely agree; this is what I mean by responsibility.

Going For A Walk

My health will be better if I can take more walks. I live is a peaceful suburb, with trees and walking paths. And it isn’t too far from nice places to walk (a short and affordable bus trip away). I’m entirely capable of walking out my front door and going for a walk.

Getting Help From Others

What has worked best for me, is my wife and I reminding each other about going for a walk (when the weather permits. It is Winter where we live. And it can be rainy too.).

Responsibility, Individuality, Co-operation

Is this exporting my responsibility for going for a walk to my wife? In one sense it is. In another it is taking up the choice I have to relate to others around me and collaborate on a joint project – my wife and I both value going for a walk. We both benefit from reminding each other.

Responsibility doesn’t have to be individualistic. We often have the possibility of doing more together than we could do alone – to the benefit of all involved.

All thoughts and comments most welcome – there is a comment box below this post.

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