Feeling at Home

by Evan on 2015/09/01


My wife and I moved cities almost a year ago. We’ve been gradually settling into our new place.

Here are a few reflections on that process – ‘feeling at home’.



We live in a beautiful part of the world. There are mountains and water and it is not only houses. This makes a difference.

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