Update from Evan

by Evan on 2012/05/04

Blogging Has Two Audiences – this post is for only one of them
My kind of blogging, one person writing on one topic – rather than a multi-author topic blog or a blog that is just about me and my random thoughts or doings – is a bit strange. People come for the topic but also want to have a personal connection with the blogger. Especially, those of you who have been reading for a while.

My kind of blog tends to have two audiences. Those who follow me (that is get each new post sent to them in a reader or by email – there are buttons for this in the sidebar – or bookmark my site and look at it regularly) and those who find a particlar post through the search engines.

This post is about me and my recent thinkings and doings and the blog in general; it is mostly for my regular readers (‘followers’). So if you got here from a search on ‘update from evan’ and this isn’t what you expected, my apologies; the next post will be back to my normal topical posts on self development – satisfaction from authenticity.

 

How Things Are With Me
The first group of people are just about to finish the 40 Reminders course. This is a brief email each day for forty days reminding you to check in with your experience. It is my way of giving the easiest possible first step to living authentically and so experiencing more satisfaction. I am waiting a little nervously to see what feedback people have. The worst possible is no feedback at all but I hope it is mostly positive (although negative at least lets me know what to improve and how much improvement is needed).

I am starting to write my ‘signature program’ (this is a piece of jargon that means roughly, the program that sets out the core of what you are about). It will be [So Many] Steps to Authenticity. How many I’m not sure yet. Should starting at rest be a step of it’s own or is the first step our awareness of some disturbance? And then there is whether a general survery should be a separate step from the more narrow focus that follows it. My approach to these things is to keep writing and the right decision tends to become obvious.

Personally there are some renovations going on where I live and I’m feeling a bit in suspended animation. I’m waiting to see what happens with some stuff that friends are going through too. So I’m feeling a bit detached, not unpleasantly; the feeling is quite mellow. Perhaps in response to this I’m feeling that I want to go deeper into stillness (this sounds pretentious to me). When I’m more centred I’m also more in touch and responsive, which sounds contradictory I guess. It is a quite dynamic kind of stillness.

So that’s how things are going for me? How’s life with you?  Looking forward to hearing from you in the comments.

 

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To find out how to live authentically you can download my manifesto.

It has exercises that will help you experience what authenticity means for you and so experience a more satisfying life.

 If you would like me to write about some aspect of living an authentic life please don’t hesitate to get in touch.  There is a box in the sidebar where you can leave this anonymously if you wish.

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I'm Evan Hadkins. I'm Evan Hadkins. To find out how to live a more satisfying life you can download my manifesto on living authentically. It is a book of exercises to guide you to finding, nourishing and living from the core of who you are.

If you would like me to write about some aspect of living an authentic life please don’t hesitate to get in touch. There is a box in the sidebar where you can leave a question anonymously if you wish, or you can email me, use the contact page, or comment on this post.

 

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isabella mori (@moritherapy) May 8, 2012 at 1:03 pm

hey evan – haven’t commented on here for ages! i’ve seen you evolve your online life for quite a few years now and all i can see is growth, growth, growth. wonderful to see you stick with what’s important to you!
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Evan May 8, 2012 at 1:23 pm

Hi Isabella, great to have you back. I think I may be finally getting a handle on what I’m up to, I’m feeling more settled and focused. Thanks for the compliment. I hope your initiatives are going well.

empowerdlife May 14, 2012 at 4:30 am

Hey Evan,

Authenticity is such a great topic. Living authentically is such a visceral experience, and the possibilities within an authentic life seem limitless.

I admire your commitment to develop a map and treatise for others to experience it too!

The biggest challenge for me continues to be raising my own awareness of living authentically within the routine of my life (family routine, work routine, social routine, etc). The routine can have its own “life”, which often doesn’t like and sometimes is in direct conflict with being authentic.

Another challenge I find is communicating to others the pay off or reward/benefit of raising the bar of awareness/authenticity in one’s life. Sometimes the whole discussion of higher purposed living seems like mental masturbation when pressed with the daily demands of living.

The daily pressures of getting the kids raised without something awful happening, dealing with a job that may be unsatisfying but pays the bills, figuring out how to save/make enough money to retire comfortably, wondering if parents will need somekind of assistance,financial or physical, can all get in the way of the silence where authenticity and purpose are found. Talk about having to make a clear and conscious choice- sometimes even minute by minute!

Yet, what is the alternative choice? Unconsciousness, chaos, and suffering is what comes to my mind.

Keep up your good work to help us see an authentic way of living that can manage all of our “daily dealings” if we pay attention.

Todd

Evan May 14, 2012 at 9:03 am

Hi Todd, thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I have done posts on the useful (and pitfalls) of routine and habit previously, if you do a search you will find them.

Communicating the benefits can be tricky. I’m not sure I’ve found how to do it yet. I want to avoid hype but not sound like a downer. For me personally what works best are metaphors about nourishment like feeling good after a good meal rather than being on a caffeine or sugar high.

I very much agree with what you say about making choices in dealing with all the details of life. It is here where the rubber really hits the road – where we find out what really works and the difference authenticity can make.

Many thanks for your comment.

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