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For me there have been two big changes. The first is being settled in myself. This happened in my early fifties (I’m now 58). It was the sense that I have a good enough idea of who I am (strengths, limitations, preferences, etc) and my part of the world (getting on with others and knowing how to make my way around the places and structures that impact me). The feelings were a settledness mixed with, ‘well, let’s get on with it’. (“It” being making the world a place where all can thrive.)
The second, which happened in my mid-fifties, was realising, that the appropriate way to respond to my earlier behaviour, was often with a mix of guilt and shame. Not in a big way, more in the, “Good grief, what was I thinking?” way. (Not about everything – and which things and I others would probably disagree on.) This has lead to greater focus, and embracing the wisdom of small steps.
This year has been a fresh start for me. I’m back at uni – discovering new areas of interest, and perhaps pursuing some old ones in a different way. My situation at home has changed (our niece and nephew, both in high school, are living with us) too. And a couple of years ago, due to an inheritance, we were able to buy a house. I haven’t lived this “normally” since my late-teens, early twenties.
This is what aging has been like for me, over about the last decade. How has it been for you?