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What’s Aging Been Like For You?

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For me there have been two big changes.  The first is being settled in myself.  This happened in my early fifties (I’m now 58).  It was the sense that I have a good enough idea of who I am (strengths, limitations, preferences, etc) and my part of the world (getting on with others and knowing how to make my way around the places and structures that impact me).  The feelings were a settledness mixed with, ‘well, let’s get on with it’.  (“It” being making the world a place where all can thrive.)

The second, which happened in my mid-fifties, was realising, that the appropriate way to respond to my earlier behaviour, was often with a mix of guilt and shame.  Not in a big way, more in the, “Good grief, what was I thinking?” way.  (Not about everything – and which things and I others would probably disagree on.)  This has lead to greater focus, and embracing the wisdom of small steps.

This year has been a fresh start for me.  I’m back at uni – discovering new areas of interest, and perhaps pursuing some old ones in a different way.  My situation at home has changed (our niece and nephew, both in high school, are living with us) too.  And a couple of years ago, due to an inheritance, we were able to buy a house.  I haven’t lived this “normally” since my late-teens, early twenties.

This is what aging has been like for me, over about the last decade.  How has it been for you?

I'm Evan Hadkins. To find out how to live a more satisfying life you can download my manifesto on living authentically. It is a book of exercises to guide you to finding, nourishing and living from the core of who you are.

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  • Tom Volkar 2018/01/02, 10:02 am

    Hey Evan, I’m 67 and I’m appreciative of multiple health challenges that have all inspired me to work my way and eat my way into the best physical shape of my adulthood. I continue to coach those who want to start a business but are afraid to face the possible lack of financial security and I’m at the top of my game professionally. I’m back on the dating sites seeking the love of my life and I’ve set the intention to find her in 2018. In a nutshell, age truly is just a number and aging slowly is a choice.

  • Evan 2018/01/03, 8:26 am

    Excellent to hear life is going so well for you Tom.

  • No More Marionette 2018/01/13, 5:50 am

    My mom is 58… just like you and I’m already afraid of what’s going to happen after her retirement 🙁

  • Evan 2018/01/13, 7:36 am

    Thanks NMM. My wife and I cared for my parents for the last few years of their lives. It can be scary I know.

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