Relationships

This year I plan to do some longer posts that go into a subject in more detail and depth. This is the first one of this style. If you would let me know whether you like this style of post or not (or what you like and dislike about it) I’d be very grateful, thanks, [...]

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Evan on December 6th, 2011

Work and Meaning I am impressed by how having meaningful work contributes to our sense of joy and our ability to cope with difficulties. I have seen this even with people who are very depressed or have other major ‘mental health’ problems.   Why would this be? I think it shows us how important meaning [...]

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This post is in response to a comment in the box in the sidebar that asks about your greatest difficulty living an authentic life.  The comment was: Going against the grain of other’s expectations of you.   We are all part of relationships It takes quite a few months – in some way years – [...]

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Evan on October 21st, 2011

A big part of an authentic life is our relationships. And a big part of this is living happily in relationship. Which leads to the question of how much we can do to make our relationships happy ones and the related question of whether we can make other people happy. This is a comment that [...]

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Evan on October 18th, 2011

Roshani’s difficulty with living an authentic life is childhood trauma. She put it this way: It is still difficult for me to live life feeling accepted as a woman that has received in the childhood this TRAUMA …with all the consequences in my present life!!!LOVE! Roshani   This post is going to deal with healing [...]

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Evan on October 7th, 2011

This post is the third and final part of my response to the comment left by isabella mori. My questions about authenticity and self development and her responses were as follows: I would like you to tell me your biggest challenge with living a life of authenticity. fear of reactions from people who have seen [...]

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Evan on September 21st, 2011

Catherine’s difficulty with living an authentic life was avoiding people. In the last post I explained what I thought might be the reason that someone might fear people in general. In previous posts I explained why someone might feel shame towards people in general. All of which is preliminary to the most important question:   [...]

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Evan on September 19th, 2011

Hi folks, I’m back to about 80% healthy and recovering quickly from my cold. So can now continue my response to Catherine’s comment. Catherine’s comment about living with authenticity was about wanting to be with others. She put it this way: Please would you consider writing something on people who mostly avoid other people, particularly [...]

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I would like to introduce you to Ian Peatey. He writes his blog about one of the most hopeful, and I think one of the more important, movements on our little planet – Nonviolent Communication. I will let him fill you in on the details in this post. He tells the story through his own [...]

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I planned to answer Harriet’s comment in two parts. But have found that I needed more space. So here is part 3 of 2. This was Harriet’s comment in response to my question about the greatest difficulty in living an authentic life in this post. My biggest problem with being authentic is my fear of [...]

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