Fear
The authentic is simple and sometimes easy; hiding is complicated and usually hard. If we know ourselves and our situation (have authenticity) then our life is simple. Sometimes creativity is required to thrive in our situation but usually a fit between ourselves and our situation is simple. I say what I want, I organise myself [...]
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You don’t have to: Scare yourself Convince yourself that you like being scared Do what you don’t want to do Do what you are afraid of (because you are afraid of it) Move out of your comfort zone Do what you are uncomfortable with Convince yourself that you like being uncomfortable Take big steps because [...]
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This post was prompted by a comment in the box in the sidebar asking you about your greatest difficulty living an authentic life. The comment was, Figuring out what I’m really thinking and then acting on it. It seems to me that this difficulty has two stages: confusion (“figuring out what I’m really thinking”), and; [...]
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Roshani’s difficulty with living an authentic life is the effects of past trauma. She put it this way: It is still difficult for me to live life feeling accepted as a woman that has received in the childhood this TRAUMA …with all the consequences in my present life!!!LOVE! Roshani This post is the second part [...]
isabella mori is a counsellor in Vancouver who has written a blog – though she hasn’t posted for a while – and who doesn’t like capital letters. I recommend her blog, change therapy, very highly; there are heaps of great resources on it. My questions about authenticity and self development and her responses were as [...]
Catherine’s difficulty with living an authentic life was avoiding people. In the last post I explained what I thought might be the reason that someone might fear people in general. In previous posts I explained why someone might feel shame towards people in general. All of which is preliminary to the most important question: [...]
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Hi folks, I’m back to about 80% healthy and recovering quickly from my cold. So can now continue my response to Catherine’s comment. Catherine’s comment about living with authenticity was about wanting to be with others. She put it this way: Please would you consider writing something on people who mostly avoid other people, particularly [...]
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In the first post in this series we talked about listening to our fears. In the second we moved on to dealing with the loss of our sense of self when we know we need to let go of our old way of doing things but aren’t sure about the new way. In this post [...]
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The biggest difficulty for Donna with living an authentic life is to do with trust. Donna commented on this post – where I asked you to tell me your difficulties with living authentically. For her the issue of trust comes up in a specifically Christian context – being ‘remade’ by Christ, she quoted from the [...]
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We don’t have any trouble with happiness and joy being seen as good. The other emotions can be seen as not so good or bad (usually this is put as ‘negative’, perhaps to tone down the judgement a little). Some emotions usually aren’t pleasant to experience, and many of us have seen the damage when [...]
