Relationships
In a lot of my posts I mention the importance of listening. In our relationships I think there is nothing that is more important. It is easy enough to learn how to listen well enough to make a major difference to our relationships. It requires few resources other than time and somewhere fairly quiet. So [...]
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There is a way of referring to useless therapy – it’s “Handholding 101”. The implication being that all the therapist does is sympathise with the client – holds their hand. This may be a little unkind but I do think there is some truth in it. There really is some useless therapy out there. There [...]
After Therapy Any healing modality or therapy faces a question: What happens after the person is healed? With physical healing the question is not often asked, the assumed answer is something like, “the person does whatever they want to”. Once a person has healed from a broken arm then they use their arm however they [...]
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I have a guest post at Discovering Purpose on relationships. It is called Relationships: With Head, Heart and Hand. It is about developing healthier relationships by listening (heart), spotting patterns in our relationships (head) and doing things together (hand). I hope you like it, Evan. To receive a weekly tip on how to live authentically [...]
I have a guest post on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog. It is called Mirror Games: Confusion When We Influence Our Environment. It is about that difficult time in relationships when we aren’t sure who is influencing who and who is responsible for what, and it is awfully difficult to know what to [...]
I have a couple of friends who always seem to be processing the same issue at the same time. It may be intimacy or friendship or establishing an income. The issues have been quite varied. This happens even if they haven’t been in touch much in the time in between. They are around the same, [...]
I have a guest post on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog. It is called Changing Ourselves and Changing Others. This is a very big topic to take on all at once. I look at the way that we influence each other and how demanding that others change is likely to produce the opposite. [...]
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Image by whiskymac People are social beings. In modern society I find it impossible to imagine how a person could lead an entirely separate existence – even if someone wanted to. And not many of us want to. For most of us our treasured moments are about connecting with others. We want to connect with [...]
Image by thp365 Step Five. Moving Toward Commonality. It is a bit of a toss-up whether it was this step or the first one that is the hardest. This step involved being with disgust and feeling uncompromising. For us it may have been easier than it may be for others. We’ve been together for a [...]
Image by thp365 Step Two. Who am I in this? Eventually it becomes possible to not focus only on the other person. It becomes possible to focus on ourselves again. We have a sense that we are settled in our own skin. We have a sense of our own sensations and emotions – and the [...]
